Humans are naturally curious creatures and as a recovering alcoholic, when you are asked why you don’t drink (and people will ask) you might struggle to find the words to explain yourself. Whether you choose to share your entire life story or you’d rather just stick to the bullet-points, here are some tips to keep in mind for those moments you find yourself at a loss for words.
They Just Don’t Get It (and that is okay)
As a recovering alcoholic, it can be challenging to answer to those who have little understanding or minimal sensitivity to the hurdles of leading a life of sobriety. They don’t know your story, where you’ve been, or what you’ve been through – but that’s okay. Ultimately, it is your choice how much you share about your story, but it’s only through being vulnerable and honest with yourself and others that you will be able contribute to a more knowledgeable society.
Never Lose Sight of the Truth
Remember why you have chosen to lead a life of sobriety and don’t feel required to bend the truth of your story. Staying true to yourself supports your own continued path of sobriety and through speaking your truth, you can help others see past the stigma of addiction and put a “face to the name” of addiction.
You don’t have to feel obligated to go out of your comfort zone when asked by someone who may not know you as well. Feel free to let your peers know that this information is personal and it may or may not be something you want everyone to hear. Simply saying, “No” or “I am fine” is a perfectly acceptable response.
Know Your Setting
It’s Christmas time, and everyone around you is sipping on eggnog enjoying their time spent with their loved ones. People are talking about plans for the future, asking one another questions about how their year has been. These questions come from a place of innocence, and it’s likely that those who ask are only seeking to be informed of your lifestyle. However, be aware of any attempts of peer pressure to partake in alcohol consumption, as this follow up is common after persistent questioning, especially about your sobriety. Be ready and willing to make adjustments to your setting and know where your time is best spent.
Accepting Your Sobriety
Half of the battle is knowing and accepting your sobriety. After you truly accept your sobriety, the responses to friend’s and family’s questions should flow naturally. Being able to identify your struggle with alcohol addiction and being able to overcome the temptation to join in with your friends or family is one step closer to achieving full acceptance of alcohol addiction.
Remember, no matter what, here at Discovery Transitions, we can help you in staying sober. If you or your loved one need additional tips or resources on living a sober lifestyle, call Discovery Transitions today at (866)-916-3211.